Of all the “get out of your seats and move” ice breakers I’ve endured throughout my education, there’s only one that gets my antisocial blessing.
This was Introduction to Religious Studies, and the professor had a knack for transforming her 100+ student lecture halls into dynamic discussion spaces. Her ice breakers had a purpose – not “let’s see how physically uncomfortable we can make everyone” – but were aptly woven into the subject material for the course. The focus of a class like this inevitably boiled down to the concept of shared identity.
We were asked to separate ourselves into the four corners of the room, each labeled with a particular term or terms. The labels were, “Human,” “Religion,” “Man/Woman,” and “American.” We were to stand by the label which we felt formed the strongest basis for our identities.
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Bioware says it may explore poly and asexual relationships in future games. Asexuality question occurs at 40:29.
The Toronto Star article mentioned last week also got a response from Ace Toronto, as well as a couple from individual members.
Critique of Popular Reason writes that demisexuality as a concept is not “appropriative” of asexuality.
Asexuality Archive categorized and responded to the comments on asexuality articles.
3 Meals Campaign is looking for an asexual person to appear in a documentary.
gurl.com posted an article about everything you need to know about asexuality.
In case you missed it, there was additional discussion of Katie’s “The Colonized Asexual” in our comments.
Today is our bloggiversary! A two-year retrospective will soon follow.
What’s the biggest change you’ve had in the last year?
In the last year, I moved in with my boyfriend. Now we have floor to ceiling windows, and even more opportunity to play Dominion and Super Mario 3D World.
Just don’t ask how my PhD is going.
This post is for the July Carnival of Aces.
Content warning: Mentions of rape.
I can’t pull all the threads apart, and I don’t claim to be able to. Which came first, the ex-chicken or the scrambled egg? What I do know is this: there is a profound intuition telling me that kissing &c. are not for me, that if I were to do them, it would be a betrayal of my self. (aceadmiral, Aversive Me)
[A] relationship would give them social immunity— I would have to defend my unwillingness more than they would have to defend force. That makes sex a form of power which can be used against me and I don’t have an equivalent weapon. (Anonymous, F-ACE-ing Silence, p. 15)
The reason I use the term “sex aversion” in preference to “sex repulsion” is that repulsion to taking part in a sex act, or thinking about doing so, isn’t the primary way I experience my antipathy towards sex. In fact, I rarely find myself in such a situation. I see sex repulsion as being like a live wire that electrocutes anyone who touches it – but sex aversion is a force field that prevents anyone (including me) from even getting near the live wire. Situations trigger the aversion response, and cause me to depart from them, long before the repulsion response might activate.
The two quotes at the beginning of the post, by aceadmiral and Anonymous, also capture some of the forms my sex aversion takes. Sometimes it’s an intuition, a sense that is very hard to pin down, an inner conviction about what is and what is not right for me. This is very abstract and yet the most central to my identity and something that is always there, regardless of the specific circumstances. Continue reading