Linkspam: October 24th, 2014

Every Friday, we will share links to news, blogs, and anything else we find interesting.  We can’t catch everything, so you are invited to self-promote in the comments!

Ene collected a bunch of short films about asexuality together.

Pleasure Mechanics featured an interview with Swankivy on their podcast.

New England Aces is running a fundraiser for Asexual Awareness Week in Boston.

owenhqrper is running an Asexual Awareness Week Fandom Challenge.

We’ve Got So Far to Go wrote about why she’s afraid of identifying as asexual.  (Note: discussion of eating disorders)

nextstepcake has made a NaNoWriMo tumblr aces writing group.

demigray says not to be angry at people who don’t know asexuality and aromanticism exist.

silverblueroses wrote about why asexuality isn’t a lack of a sexual orientation.

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Atheism’s dark side

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This post was written for the Carnival of Aces, which this month has the theme of asexuality and religion/atheism. Content note: the blockquotes below have major ace hate and rape threats.

As I’ve mentioned numerous times before, I was an atheist activist before working in asexual activism.  That means I keep close track of atheist news and discourse.  Someone once told me that it was nice to have me around, so I can keep my ear on the ground, see how atheists are doing with regard to asexuality.  I have mostly positive things to say

…That is, if I confine myself to talking about the atheists that I read and hang out with.  But there’s a dark side.  Over the past few years, the atheist movement, the giant that it is, has split into a feminist faction and an anti-feminist faction.  I, being in the feminist faction, have seen many positive changes.  But these changes are caused by the evaporation of the anti-feminists, who rather than disappearing, coalesced into a looming horrorterror.

And even if you’re not an atheist, you might have interacted with this faction already.

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Question of the Week: October 21st, 2014

I’ve been radio silent in the ace community for some time now, in part because I’m dealing with some fairly upsetting family issues that are sucking up a lot of my energy. But that has me thinking:

If your family know you’re ace, how do they think about it? Do they talk about it, or do they try not to acknowledge that you said anything?

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Linkspam: October 17th, 2014

Every Friday, we will share links to news, blogs, and anything else we find interesting.  We can’t catch everything, so you are invited to self-promote in the comments!

Pegasus wrote about asexual sex-positivism.

The Olivia Experiment has been released publicly.  Next Step: Cake has a few details.

The HuffPost Live segment on aromanticism that we posted last week got edited into a shorter video and article.

Queenie explains in detail how the AVEN survey failed ace survivors.

Aqua created a round-up of critiques of the AVEN survey.

Bree Katz wrote about her experience of asexuality.

A Cracked article had a brief and appropriate mention of asexuality.

New blog spotted: Ace Actual

aceadmiral wrote about aromantic themes in Katagoshi no Koibito.

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Question of the Week: October 14th, 2014

In the past week, there’s been a lot of discussion about how people can fail to fit in neat boxes (particularly in the context of a certain survey which tries to do just that).  Is there anything about yourself that makes you difficult to categorize?

I’m a gray-A, but I wouldn’t say that this means I experience sexual attraction infrequently.  Nor would I say it means I experience it frequently.  In fact, the entire idea of frequency doesn’t make a whole lot of sense to me, because sexual attraction doesn’t feel like a thing that occurs, more like a thing that is.

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Carnival of Aces: call for submissions

There’s been a delay in posting the previous Carnival of Aces link roundup, but I think it will eventually appear once the host has time to do it.

In the mean time, I’m already very late in announcing the next Carnival of Aces for October.  The host is Something Queer to Read, and the theme is “Religion and asexuality”, or alternatively “atheism and asexuality”.  That sure makes me want to write something.  Please consider submitting something before the end of the month.

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Linkspam: October 10th, 2014

Every Friday, we will share links to news, blogs, and anything else we find interesting.  We can’t catch everything, so you are invited to self-promote in the comments!

Aromanticism hit major media on HuffPost Live.

Aqua talks about the making of the 2014 AVEN survey.

Ace Toronto put out a zine called “Asexuality: Coming to terms“.

ace-muslim offered an asexual Muslim perspective on arranged marriages.

Ser weighs in on the AVEN survey and the romance myth.

Queer Sounds is looking for aces to participate in their music video.

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